The Bible is full of knowledge; maps of life; instructions on marriage, child rearing, life's do's and don'ts; poverty or prosperity; sickness or health; and a lot more. Yes, the Bible also gives us the signs of the end times.
I hear people ask all the time, "what is wrong with people today", "what is going on with the kids of today", "why is the weather acting crazy and so many natural disasters", "why are there so many young people dying at such a young age"? Life has greatly changed for the worst since I was a kid.
The only answer I have is, "read the book, The Bible", and that we are nearing the end of time and all that God said would happen if we turned from Him.
Children are rebellious against God and their parents, parents giving away their children for their mate, drugs, etc., crime rate has increased to great heights, false preachers out for money & personal gain, increase of occult and false prophets, wars all over the world, deadly diseases, famine/poverty, erratic weather and natural disasters, homosexuality increases with national support, marriage forsaken, government against God selling us out to heathen nations.... so on and so on. Read the book!!!
In reality the entire Bible is full of warnings, instructions and information, that we as sinful self-centered humans have ignored our entire lives. So, what should we expect to happen when we have totally ignored God and His word.
There are signs of the end times but what should that matter? You should be ready to meet your maker in heaven or spend an eternity in hell every second that you are still alive. You may never live long enough to see the ends times, your end time could be any second in the blink of an eye.
So, stop focusing on the end of the world & put your focus on "YOUR" end of time, cause you never know when your time will be over!!!
Thursday, September 6, 2012
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
Liar or LIAR ?
At some point in time everyone tells a lie, whether it's a little white lie or omitting the truth, which is also a form of lying.
When a child learns to talk, they will lie in order to test the power of their words, their ability to manipulate, to get out of trouble and to get what they want. Sometimes lying gets worse with time and age, which is the beginning of problems if not stopped as a child. When the lying is not stopped and they are allowed to get away with lying, it encourages them to continue their lies and deceptions.
"LIARS" will continue to lie, concoct more lies to cover up and protect themselves from being found out as a liar.
Pathological liars (which is a description, not a diagnosis) lie about most everything, large and small. They lie to protect themselves, look good, personal gain socially and financially, and to avoid punishment. Then you have the liars who knowingly lie for personal gain, who get in trouble with the law, these are known as being Sociopaths.
Sometimes liars are so good at lying that it may take some time for you to realize that you are dealing with a pathological liar or a sociopath, not just an occasional liar.
There are clues and signs of a liar's behavior that should throw up red flags warning you, that you are dealing with a liar.
Avoiding eye contact or looking down during parts of a conversation, is a sign of lying.
Voice variation of pitch or the rate of speech, is a sign of lying. In some cases they will use a lot of um-ms and ahhs during their conversations.
Turning their body away, covering their face or mouth, fidgeting of their hands and/or legs is a sign of lying.
Making statements that contradict other stories or statements, should tell you that you are dealing with a liar.
Getting loud and/or irate during a conversation, and/or threatening to leave, when they think you do not believe their lies, is also another good sign of lying.
The number one way of not falling into a liar's trap is to refuse to be a victim of a liar. Open your eyes, ears and mind, and stop ignoring all the signs of a "LIAR"!!!
When a child learns to talk, they will lie in order to test the power of their words, their ability to manipulate, to get out of trouble and to get what they want. Sometimes lying gets worse with time and age, which is the beginning of problems if not stopped as a child. When the lying is not stopped and they are allowed to get away with lying, it encourages them to continue their lies and deceptions.
"LIARS" will continue to lie, concoct more lies to cover up and protect themselves from being found out as a liar.
Pathological liars (which is a description, not a diagnosis) lie about most everything, large and small. They lie to protect themselves, look good, personal gain socially and financially, and to avoid punishment. Then you have the liars who knowingly lie for personal gain, who get in trouble with the law, these are known as being Sociopaths.
Sometimes liars are so good at lying that it may take some time for you to realize that you are dealing with a pathological liar or a sociopath, not just an occasional liar.
There are clues and signs of a liar's behavior that should throw up red flags warning you, that you are dealing with a liar.
Avoiding eye contact or looking down during parts of a conversation, is a sign of lying.
Voice variation of pitch or the rate of speech, is a sign of lying. In some cases they will use a lot of um-ms and ahhs during their conversations.
Turning their body away, covering their face or mouth, fidgeting of their hands and/or legs is a sign of lying.
Making statements that contradict other stories or statements, should tell you that you are dealing with a liar.
Getting loud and/or irate during a conversation, and/or threatening to leave, when they think you do not believe their lies, is also another good sign of lying.
The number one way of not falling into a liar's trap is to refuse to be a victim of a liar. Open your eyes, ears and mind, and stop ignoring all the signs of a "LIAR"!!!
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
You, "A Real Man", You Think?
You think you are a real man? Do you guys even have a clue what "A Real Man" is? Ladies do you even know what you are to be looking for in guys so you can find yourselves "A Real Man"? Society's idea of "A Real Man" is deceiving, misleading, a lie and just flat out wrong!!! It isn't someone that has male genitals hanging between their legs running around trying to convince everyone including themselves that they are "A Real Man".
The characteristics of "A Real Man" are very plain and simple, and the bad part is there are very very few real men in the world today. The characteristics of "A Real Man" is not what man can beat on his chest the hardest, who can yell the loudest, who can bully others, who can manipulate, con, cheat, lie and abuse others or who can bench press the most.
Below are the characteristics of "A Real Man":
HUMILITY - Humility demands you know your weaknesses and that you are modest about your strengths, not running around bragging, boasting and parading your strengths trying to convince others just how great "you think you are".
Man's sin nature tells him he is to be sinfully proud, arrogant and boastful. Pride is also another one of man's greatest downfalls. Sinfully proud, arrogance,ego boasting, and misleading pride will always get a man into trouble."A Real Man" does NOT display or act sinfully proud, arrogant, boastful or prideful. 1st Peter 3:6.
A humble man can recognizes the truth that there are more powerful people than he and that God is the only true power that created him and can save him. He recognizes his own weaknesses and failings. He recognizes where praise is due and not to himself. "A Real Man" has the maturity to be humble and meek.
MEEKNESS - Meekness is NOT weakness! It is the combination of humility and trust. The meek man understands his own limits and relies on God who is more powerful.
"A Real Man" is meek and submits (follows and obeys) to authority and the authority of God, who will give him strength and courage. Meekness is the key to "Victory". James 4:7.
STRENGTH and COURAGE - Strength and courage will come from and rise out of meekness. This is not physical strength or physical courage. The strength of mind and emotions will bring out fearless courage.
Strength and courage will mark "Real Men". The strength and courage is there because "A Real Man" is part of a mission and willing to stand up for what is right, be counted, and sacrifice himself if need be. "A Real Man" is honest at all times no matter what.
LEADERSHIP - "A Real Man" knows he is going in the right direction and leads others. A leader has convictions and he inspires others. Guys who father a child outside of marriage are NOT real men. Guys who shack up with a woman instead of marrying her is NOT real men. Guys who do NOT lead their families in the right direction legally, ethically, morally and religiously are NOT real men.
Leadership is the mark of "A Real Man". Leadership does NOT mean dictatorship. Real men lead by example and persuasion, NOT by power or threats. 1st Tim. 3:5; Titus 1.
Leadership demands other characteristics of "A Real Man"; mentor/teacher.
MENTOR/TEACHER - Mentoring is a process of passing on the TRUE characteristics of "A Real Man". Real men mentor and sharpen other men. "A Real Man" mentors and trains his children in the right way to go and lifestyle. A father/real man will mentor/teach and lead his children by example of all the characteristics of "A Real Man" - humility, meekness, strength, courage, leadership and integrity. Deut. 6:4-9; Eph. 6:3,4; Col. 4:21; 1st Tim. 3:4,5.
INTEGRITY - Integrity is moral soundness and wholeness. "A Real Man" with integrity is honest, he keeps his word, and he holds fast to his principles, no matter what. He stands firm and does not waver. He who walks in integrity walks securely, but he who perverts his ways will be found out. Prov. 10:9.
Integrity is important in everything; our lives, socially, and in business. Your integrity is important as "A Real Man" so that others knows that you can be trusted and dependable.
"A Real Man" keeps his promises, practices what he preaches and does NOT lie.
PROVIDER - "A Real Man" works and provides for his family. Provider doesn't just mean financially but also looking out for and caring for his families needs physically, emotionally, and mentally. "A Real Man" is not lazy and does not look for a handout. Tim. 5:8; Thess. 3:10-13.
"A Real Man lives a disciplined life, providing for his family and others. Eph. 4:28.
FRIEND - A friend is a friend in the truest sense, not someone who has a lot of acquaintances. "A Real Man" is a friend to his wife, loving her more than himself, giving up himself for her, and putting her first before himself and all others. "A Real Man" puts God first and then his wife second. That is a sacrificial love, putting God and his wife before himself.
The bottom line is that "A Real Man" is a Godly man because an ungodly a man CANNOT do what "A Real Man" is to do, not without God and God's help. Psalms 15:1-5.
"A Real Man" has the same characteristics as in Jesus - humility, mentoring, integrity, provider, friend, honesty. If you want to be "A Real Man" you need to become like Jesus. Romans 8:29.
You guys without Jesus may be able to develop some of these characteristics to a small degree, but you will never be "A Real Man" until you come to know Jesus and His characteristics start taking over your sinful characteristics of societies ideas of what a real man is.
The characteristics of "A Real Man" are very plain and simple, and the bad part is there are very very few real men in the world today. The characteristics of "A Real Man" is not what man can beat on his chest the hardest, who can yell the loudest, who can bully others, who can manipulate, con, cheat, lie and abuse others or who can bench press the most.
Below are the characteristics of "A Real Man":
HUMILITY - Humility demands you know your weaknesses and that you are modest about your strengths, not running around bragging, boasting and parading your strengths trying to convince others just how great "you think you are".
Man's sin nature tells him he is to be sinfully proud, arrogant and boastful. Pride is also another one of man's greatest downfalls. Sinfully proud, arrogance,ego boasting, and misleading pride will always get a man into trouble."A Real Man" does NOT display or act sinfully proud, arrogant, boastful or prideful. 1st Peter 3:6.
A humble man can recognizes the truth that there are more powerful people than he and that God is the only true power that created him and can save him. He recognizes his own weaknesses and failings. He recognizes where praise is due and not to himself. "A Real Man" has the maturity to be humble and meek.
MEEKNESS - Meekness is NOT weakness! It is the combination of humility and trust. The meek man understands his own limits and relies on God who is more powerful.
"A Real Man" is meek and submits (follows and obeys) to authority and the authority of God, who will give him strength and courage. Meekness is the key to "Victory". James 4:7.
STRENGTH and COURAGE - Strength and courage will come from and rise out of meekness. This is not physical strength or physical courage. The strength of mind and emotions will bring out fearless courage.
Strength and courage will mark "Real Men". The strength and courage is there because "A Real Man" is part of a mission and willing to stand up for what is right, be counted, and sacrifice himself if need be. "A Real Man" is honest at all times no matter what.
LEADERSHIP - "A Real Man" knows he is going in the right direction and leads others. A leader has convictions and he inspires others. Guys who father a child outside of marriage are NOT real men. Guys who shack up with a woman instead of marrying her is NOT real men. Guys who do NOT lead their families in the right direction legally, ethically, morally and religiously are NOT real men.
Leadership is the mark of "A Real Man". Leadership does NOT mean dictatorship. Real men lead by example and persuasion, NOT by power or threats. 1st Tim. 3:5; Titus 1.
Leadership demands other characteristics of "A Real Man"; mentor/teacher.
MENTOR/TEACHER - Mentoring is a process of passing on the TRUE characteristics of "A Real Man". Real men mentor and sharpen other men. "A Real Man" mentors and trains his children in the right way to go and lifestyle. A father/real man will mentor/teach and lead his children by example of all the characteristics of "A Real Man" - humility, meekness, strength, courage, leadership and integrity. Deut. 6:4-9; Eph. 6:3,4; Col. 4:21; 1st Tim. 3:4,5.
INTEGRITY - Integrity is moral soundness and wholeness. "A Real Man" with integrity is honest, he keeps his word, and he holds fast to his principles, no matter what. He stands firm and does not waver. He who walks in integrity walks securely, but he who perverts his ways will be found out. Prov. 10:9.
Integrity is important in everything; our lives, socially, and in business. Your integrity is important as "A Real Man" so that others knows that you can be trusted and dependable.
"A Real Man" keeps his promises, practices what he preaches and does NOT lie.
PROVIDER - "A Real Man" works and provides for his family. Provider doesn't just mean financially but also looking out for and caring for his families needs physically, emotionally, and mentally. "A Real Man" is not lazy and does not look for a handout. Tim. 5:8; Thess. 3:10-13.
"A Real Man lives a disciplined life, providing for his family and others. Eph. 4:28.
FRIEND - A friend is a friend in the truest sense, not someone who has a lot of acquaintances. "A Real Man" is a friend to his wife, loving her more than himself, giving up himself for her, and putting her first before himself and all others. "A Real Man" puts God first and then his wife second. That is a sacrificial love, putting God and his wife before himself.
The bottom line is that "A Real Man" is a Godly man because an ungodly a man CANNOT do what "A Real Man" is to do, not without God and God's help. Psalms 15:1-5.
"A Real Man" has the same characteristics as in Jesus - humility, mentoring, integrity, provider, friend, honesty. If you want to be "A Real Man" you need to become like Jesus. Romans 8:29.
You guys without Jesus may be able to develop some of these characteristics to a small degree, but you will never be "A Real Man" until you come to know Jesus and His characteristics start taking over your sinful characteristics of societies ideas of what a real man is.
Saturday, August 25, 2012
Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life
Change your mindset and you can change your life into the life you want!!! Negative/evil thoughts ruins your internal self, which ruins your life!!!
It is impossible to love others when you do not truly love your self in a positive/good and right way. Self-hatred and anger damages you more than you realize. The negative/evil self-talk that you do inside your head is the basis of most of your problems and negative/bad things that happen in your life. The negative/evil mindset/thoughts and the anger it produces is the downfall to you having the good life you want.
When you turn your anger inwards it becomes depression. The more anger you feel, the more depressed you become. Depression feeds on negative/evil thoughts along with the self-pity, hurts and disappointments from life. So round and round you go until your life becomes a living hell that you created.
Your mindset is the internal thoughts that your brain plays over and over again. Your mindset is the way you believe, think and feel about yourself, your life and everything you come into contact. Your mindset is internal and creates your true self-image. When you do not get the type love and support you need, even if it is negative/evil, it tears down your self-image even more. And as sick as it sounds, some people seek out and thrive on negative/evil attention, love & support, instead of positive/good. When you do not receive the type love and support you want it can cause you to feel ugly, unworthy, abandoned, unloved, and will eventually turn into anger. If the anger is turned inwards it can cause depression and sickness. If the anger is turned outwards it can cause rebellion, defiance, disrespect for yourself and others, social problems with the law or even worse. Your depression and anger must be fixed correctly before you can make positive changes in yourself and your life.
Your depression (anger turned inward) is not hurting anyone but yourself. You must learn to forgive yourself, forgive others and turn loose of your anger. The longer you hang onto it the longer you will remain sickly and unstable. It is not easy to forgive and turn loose of your anger but the unconditional love of God is the only way you can release the anger and be totally healed. To get your mindset, your heart and your life straight, first you have to ask God to forgive you for all the negative/evil wrongs you have committed against Him, others and yourself. Then and only then will you be released from all the negative/evils you brought onto yourself and into your life.
Before positive changes can take place and work, your mindset/thoughts, your self-image must change from negative/evil thinking to positive/good thinking. If you have negative/low self-confidence and negative/low self-esteem, you cannot have positive changes in yourself or your life. You must realize that God did not make a mistake and did not make junk when He created you. You are not junk/mistake and you are worthy of everything good in yourself and in your life that you want & all that God has to give you.
Building up your self-image and self-confidence will bring positive/good into you and your life. God doesn't want His children to be sickly, poor or lack for anything. Being sickly, poor or lacking is because you subconsciously choose to sabotage your self, your highest good and your life. By changing your mindset , your thought/belief patterns and how you truly feel about yourself to positive/good can bring immediate positive/good into your life.
Your mind is constantly telling you either negative/evil statements or positive/good statements convincing you one way or the other how to think, act and feel. Your positive/good mind's statements can convince you that you are happy, cheerful, loving, inspired, motivated and effective. Your negative/evil mind's statements can dis-empower you, causing you pain, misery, suffering, sadness, depression, fear, anxiety, helplessness and hopelessness. Your negative/evil mindset is not allowing you to be the way that you know you need to be or do what you know you need to do. If you do not change your negative/evil mindset, you will never become the positive/good person or have a positive/good life you want and desire.
To change your mindset you must first release all of your negative/evil lifestyle and thought patterns, then replace them with all new positive/good lifestyle and thought patterns. Replacing your negative/evil thought patterns with new positive/good thought patterns becomes easier and more relaxing for you with each passing day. Everyone needs to make a list of all the positive affirmations and changes we want in ourselves and our lives to help keep us on track and from slipping back into the negative/evil that we know we need to stay away from.
Thoughts are energy, either positive/good or negative/evil energy. There is NO in between. When a negative/evil thought enters into our brain/thoughts, we tend to focus on that negative/evil thought, which in turn produces more negative/evil thought, until it becomes out of control & takes over. The thoughts you think, negative/evil or positive/good, begins to display in your life by your actions and appearance. Your negative/evil thoughts will bring negative/evil events, blocking positive/good events, making you a slave to your negative/evil emotions, thoughts, beliefs and behavior. Negative/evil thoughts attracts and brings more and more negative/evil energy.
Positive/good thoughts creates a positive/good energy that attracts more positive/good energy to you and into your life. It is extremely important and vital for you to be in charge of your own mind/thoughts, in control of your own personal power and to think highly of yourself. It is extremely vital to love yourself!!! If Jesus can love you enough to give His life for you, then shouldn't you love yourself as well? God created you and God does NOT make mistakes or junk!!! You are not a mistake, even though you have made mistakes, and you are not junk!!!
Treat others like you want them to treat you. Know yourself, be true to yourself, love yourself, and take care of yourself, because no one else will do it for you.
Become truly aware of your thoughts... negative/evil or positive/good. You have the conscious choice to choose negative/evil or positive/good thoughts, personal power and energy.You have the conscious choice and power to think what you want and to create the kind of life you want. There are two types of decision makers inside of you, negative/evil and positive/good, which ever one that controls you determines what type of person you are and what happens in your life.
There is the "I", who is your higher self connected to God, your positive/good brain/thought power, the balanced and positive/good adult. Then there is the "Self", the ego, the inner child, who is very selfish, self-centered, self-destructive, and very negative/evil.
"I" (positive/good) should be in control of the way "Self" (negative/evil) chooses to think, behave, react and manifest/produce it's self. "I" does not choose to live the way "Self" has been living in the past. "I" choose not to be depressed, fearful, sickly, negative/evil anymore. "I" choose to like and love myself, and give myself the right kind of validation I want & need to have a wonderful positive/good life. "I" choose to use my positive/good thoughts to create good health, beauty, love, joy, peace, tranquility, abundance and prosperity in myself and in my life. "I" choose to stop my negative/evil "Self" from creating anger, sadness, frustration, hate, fear, drama, chaos and poverty into my life!!!
You have the control over your self-image, your thoughts and your life, no matter what kind of life you were born into or raised up in!!! All you have to do is change your mindset!!!
When you take responsibility for your own mistakes and life, and stop blaming others, is when you become a mature and responsible adult!!! When you no longer blame others, for the messed up life you were dealt as a child and the messes you created in your life, is when you can start creating the life you desire and want, and start receiving the Blessings God has for your life.God is the Supplier of all our needs, wants and desires, and He can only give to us when we have a positive/good mindset/thoughts, and not blocking Him with our negative/evil mindset/thoughts.
Health, wealth and happiness is within each of us. Blessings brings positive/good results...Curses/evil creates more negativity/evil bad results.
Your thoughts and your spoken words makes you what you are and what your life is!!!
Change your negative/evil mindset/thoughts into positive/good mindset/thoughts and you will change your life into the wonderful life you want and desire!!!
It is impossible to love others when you do not truly love your self in a positive/good and right way. Self-hatred and anger damages you more than you realize. The negative/evil self-talk that you do inside your head is the basis of most of your problems and negative/bad things that happen in your life. The negative/evil mindset/thoughts and the anger it produces is the downfall to you having the good life you want.
When you turn your anger inwards it becomes depression. The more anger you feel, the more depressed you become. Depression feeds on negative/evil thoughts along with the self-pity, hurts and disappointments from life. So round and round you go until your life becomes a living hell that you created.
Your mindset is the internal thoughts that your brain plays over and over again. Your mindset is the way you believe, think and feel about yourself, your life and everything you come into contact. Your mindset is internal and creates your true self-image. When you do not get the type love and support you need, even if it is negative/evil, it tears down your self-image even more. And as sick as it sounds, some people seek out and thrive on negative/evil attention, love & support, instead of positive/good. When you do not receive the type love and support you want it can cause you to feel ugly, unworthy, abandoned, unloved, and will eventually turn into anger. If the anger is turned inwards it can cause depression and sickness. If the anger is turned outwards it can cause rebellion, defiance, disrespect for yourself and others, social problems with the law or even worse. Your depression and anger must be fixed correctly before you can make positive changes in yourself and your life.
Your depression (anger turned inward) is not hurting anyone but yourself. You must learn to forgive yourself, forgive others and turn loose of your anger. The longer you hang onto it the longer you will remain sickly and unstable. It is not easy to forgive and turn loose of your anger but the unconditional love of God is the only way you can release the anger and be totally healed. To get your mindset, your heart and your life straight, first you have to ask God to forgive you for all the negative/evil wrongs you have committed against Him, others and yourself. Then and only then will you be released from all the negative/evils you brought onto yourself and into your life.
Before positive changes can take place and work, your mindset/thoughts, your self-image must change from negative/evil thinking to positive/good thinking. If you have negative/low self-confidence and negative/low self-esteem, you cannot have positive changes in yourself or your life. You must realize that God did not make a mistake and did not make junk when He created you. You are not junk/mistake and you are worthy of everything good in yourself and in your life that you want & all that God has to give you.
Building up your self-image and self-confidence will bring positive/good into you and your life. God doesn't want His children to be sickly, poor or lack for anything. Being sickly, poor or lacking is because you subconsciously choose to sabotage your self, your highest good and your life. By changing your mindset , your thought/belief patterns and how you truly feel about yourself to positive/good can bring immediate positive/good into your life.
Your mind is constantly telling you either negative/evil statements or positive/good statements convincing you one way or the other how to think, act and feel. Your positive/good mind's statements can convince you that you are happy, cheerful, loving, inspired, motivated and effective. Your negative/evil mind's statements can dis-empower you, causing you pain, misery, suffering, sadness, depression, fear, anxiety, helplessness and hopelessness. Your negative/evil mindset is not allowing you to be the way that you know you need to be or do what you know you need to do. If you do not change your negative/evil mindset, you will never become the positive/good person or have a positive/good life you want and desire.
To change your mindset you must first release all of your negative/evil lifestyle and thought patterns, then replace them with all new positive/good lifestyle and thought patterns. Replacing your negative/evil thought patterns with new positive/good thought patterns becomes easier and more relaxing for you with each passing day. Everyone needs to make a list of all the positive affirmations and changes we want in ourselves and our lives to help keep us on track and from slipping back into the negative/evil that we know we need to stay away from.
Thoughts are energy, either positive/good or negative/evil energy. There is NO in between. When a negative/evil thought enters into our brain/thoughts, we tend to focus on that negative/evil thought, which in turn produces more negative/evil thought, until it becomes out of control & takes over. The thoughts you think, negative/evil or positive/good, begins to display in your life by your actions and appearance. Your negative/evil thoughts will bring negative/evil events, blocking positive/good events, making you a slave to your negative/evil emotions, thoughts, beliefs and behavior. Negative/evil thoughts attracts and brings more and more negative/evil energy.
Positive/good thoughts creates a positive/good energy that attracts more positive/good energy to you and into your life. It is extremely important and vital for you to be in charge of your own mind/thoughts, in control of your own personal power and to think highly of yourself. It is extremely vital to love yourself!!! If Jesus can love you enough to give His life for you, then shouldn't you love yourself as well? God created you and God does NOT make mistakes or junk!!! You are not a mistake, even though you have made mistakes, and you are not junk!!!
Treat others like you want them to treat you. Know yourself, be true to yourself, love yourself, and take care of yourself, because no one else will do it for you.
Become truly aware of your thoughts... negative/evil or positive/good. You have the conscious choice to choose negative/evil or positive/good thoughts, personal power and energy.You have the conscious choice and power to think what you want and to create the kind of life you want. There are two types of decision makers inside of you, negative/evil and positive/good, which ever one that controls you determines what type of person you are and what happens in your life.
There is the "I", who is your higher self connected to God, your positive/good brain/thought power, the balanced and positive/good adult. Then there is the "Self", the ego, the inner child, who is very selfish, self-centered, self-destructive, and very negative/evil.
"I" (positive/good) should be in control of the way "Self" (negative/evil) chooses to think, behave, react and manifest/produce it's self. "I" does not choose to live the way "Self" has been living in the past. "I" choose not to be depressed, fearful, sickly, negative/evil anymore. "I" choose to like and love myself, and give myself the right kind of validation I want & need to have a wonderful positive/good life. "I" choose to use my positive/good thoughts to create good health, beauty, love, joy, peace, tranquility, abundance and prosperity in myself and in my life. "I" choose to stop my negative/evil "Self" from creating anger, sadness, frustration, hate, fear, drama, chaos and poverty into my life!!!
You have the control over your self-image, your thoughts and your life, no matter what kind of life you were born into or raised up in!!! All you have to do is change your mindset!!!
When you take responsibility for your own mistakes and life, and stop blaming others, is when you become a mature and responsible adult!!! When you no longer blame others, for the messed up life you were dealt as a child and the messes you created in your life, is when you can start creating the life you desire and want, and start receiving the Blessings God has for your life.God is the Supplier of all our needs, wants and desires, and He can only give to us when we have a positive/good mindset/thoughts, and not blocking Him with our negative/evil mindset/thoughts.
Health, wealth and happiness is within each of us. Blessings brings positive/good results...Curses/evil creates more negativity/evil bad results.
Your thoughts and your spoken words makes you what you are and what your life is!!!
Change your negative/evil mindset/thoughts into positive/good mindset/thoughts and you will change your life into the wonderful life you want and desire!!!
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
God's Mistake or Our Mistake?
God doesn't make mistakes!!!
As humans some have tried to argue that God does make mistakes and blames God for the bad things that happen in our lives. Hello... wake up and smell the smoke!!!
Some try to say God made a mistake, after creating such an awesome paradise called earth, by creating humans, starting with Adam and Eve. Creating humans wasn't God's mistake. God wanted someone, besides Himself, to enjoy and admire His awesome creation of paradise and someone for Him to socialize and commune with.
Some may also argue that it was God's mistake of creating humans with the right of free will and free choice to chose to do God's Will or their own selfish sinful will. That wasn't a mistake on God's part!!! That is the mistake of humans and their ignorance of God and God's Word!!!
God did not, does not and will not force Himself on us or into our lives, force us to love Him or force us to worship. God wants us to know of His unconditional and never ending love for us, but because of our own human ignorance we choose not to know the full love of God, because of our free will to go our own way and do our own selfish evil will. God wants humans to come to Him "FREELY" not by force from Him.
If you read the book of Genesis you will find where Eve made the free will of choice to defy God, by listening to Satan the snake and eating of the one fruit God told Adam and Eve not to eat. That was Eve's free will to choose to do or not to do. Satan the snake did not hold a gun to Eve's head and force her to sin by defying God's Word. She sinned and defied God's Word of her own free will.
If you continue to read you will find even more interesting facts of human mistakes of selfish evil ignorance when it comes to our own free will.
After Eve chose to defy God and chose evil over good, she didn't want to be alone in her choice of doing evil so she went to find her partner Adam. Eve enticed Adam to commit the same sin of defying God as she freely chose to do. So Adam freely chose to participate in defying God and God's Word by following Eve's actions of defiance and sin.
What is so interesting is that God did not make a mistake, Adam and Eve made the mistake!!! Adam and Eve made the mistake of freely defying God and freely chose to follow Satan to do evil.
Adam, who was to protect and guide Eve, hid from God because of his shame of freely choosing to defy God, instead of turning away from evil and standing strong for God.
When God confronted Adam of his free will to sin and defy God, what did Adam do? Adam tried to blame Eve for making him to sin against God. Excuse Me, but there is no where in the Bible that says Eve forced Adam or held a gun to Adam's head to force him to defy God and commit this sin. Adam made the choice of his own free will.
The mistakes are not God's mistakes but our own selfish human mistakes. We as humans have the free will to chose to do God's Will or our own selfish evil will. God gave us the right to our own free will, but the choices we make are our own and no one else.
It is our own free will to chose a godly mate or an evil mate; to raise our children as godly children or evil heathen children; to socialize with godly people or evil heathen people; to be addicted to a godly lifestyle or addicted to an evil lifestyle; to serve God or to serve Satan.
So when you take your last breath and are standing in front of God on judgement day, there will be NO ONE to blame but yourself, for your free will of choices of your own mistakes.
May God have mercy on us all, but it is our own free will of choices (good/Heaven or evil/Hell) that will tell just how much mercy that He will give us in the end.
As humans some have tried to argue that God does make mistakes and blames God for the bad things that happen in our lives. Hello... wake up and smell the smoke!!!
Some try to say God made a mistake, after creating such an awesome paradise called earth, by creating humans, starting with Adam and Eve. Creating humans wasn't God's mistake. God wanted someone, besides Himself, to enjoy and admire His awesome creation of paradise and someone for Him to socialize and commune with.
Some may also argue that it was God's mistake of creating humans with the right of free will and free choice to chose to do God's Will or their own selfish sinful will. That wasn't a mistake on God's part!!! That is the mistake of humans and their ignorance of God and God's Word!!!
God did not, does not and will not force Himself on us or into our lives, force us to love Him or force us to worship. God wants us to know of His unconditional and never ending love for us, but because of our own human ignorance we choose not to know the full love of God, because of our free will to go our own way and do our own selfish evil will. God wants humans to come to Him "FREELY" not by force from Him.
If you read the book of Genesis you will find where Eve made the free will of choice to defy God, by listening to Satan the snake and eating of the one fruit God told Adam and Eve not to eat. That was Eve's free will to choose to do or not to do. Satan the snake did not hold a gun to Eve's head and force her to sin by defying God's Word. She sinned and defied God's Word of her own free will.
If you continue to read you will find even more interesting facts of human mistakes of selfish evil ignorance when it comes to our own free will.
After Eve chose to defy God and chose evil over good, she didn't want to be alone in her choice of doing evil so she went to find her partner Adam. Eve enticed Adam to commit the same sin of defying God as she freely chose to do. So Adam freely chose to participate in defying God and God's Word by following Eve's actions of defiance and sin.
What is so interesting is that God did not make a mistake, Adam and Eve made the mistake!!! Adam and Eve made the mistake of freely defying God and freely chose to follow Satan to do evil.
Adam, who was to protect and guide Eve, hid from God because of his shame of freely choosing to defy God, instead of turning away from evil and standing strong for God.
When God confronted Adam of his free will to sin and defy God, what did Adam do? Adam tried to blame Eve for making him to sin against God. Excuse Me, but there is no where in the Bible that says Eve forced Adam or held a gun to Adam's head to force him to defy God and commit this sin. Adam made the choice of his own free will.
The mistakes are not God's mistakes but our own selfish human mistakes. We as humans have the free will to chose to do God's Will or our own selfish evil will. God gave us the right to our own free will, but the choices we make are our own and no one else.
It is our own free will to chose a godly mate or an evil mate; to raise our children as godly children or evil heathen children; to socialize with godly people or evil heathen people; to be addicted to a godly lifestyle or addicted to an evil lifestyle; to serve God or to serve Satan.
So when you take your last breath and are standing in front of God on judgement day, there will be NO ONE to blame but yourself, for your free will of choices of your own mistakes.
May God have mercy on us all, but it is our own free will of choices (good/Heaven or evil/Hell) that will tell just how much mercy that He will give us in the end.
Friday, May 18, 2012
BEWARE of BLAMERS!!!
Do you have a "Blamer" (negative/narcissist person) in your life, who makes you feel that you are always to blame, always your fault and nothing you do is ever right?
After spending time with this type person or just being associated with this person, makes you feel guilty, upset, emotionally exhausted, confused, useless and incompetent. This is a negative/narcissist person that is also known as a "blamer".
At first this narcissist person can be charming, very likable and very believing, without exposing their dark side. Then their dark side comes out which is the "blamer", their negative/narcissist personality. That is when you get hammered by their true personality (narcissist/negative) of them blaming you for everything wrong in their life, you are blamed for their mistakes and their deceptions/sins. Trying to be rational with this type person, show them you are hurt and innocent, does NOT work, it makes it even worse.
This type person is a "BLAMER", with a narcissist/negative personality. They blame others for anything and everything. They NEVER take responsibility or admit their wrong doings or their faults. This person is NOT an occasional blamer, they are a 24/ 7 continual blamer.
This blamer (narcissist/negative person) can appear to be very caring, charming, interested in you and others when you first meet them. It is not until later that you realize this relationship with this person is a nightmare from hell.
BEWARE: this blamer is the most destructive narcissist/negative person you can ever deal with, which will bring negative thinking and behavior into you and your life. This person will bring you anguish and distress as long as you associate with them.
This blamer can make you feel as though something is wrong with you, and if you were a better person or smarter or nicer or just did the right things, then the relationship between you and the blamer would be better. WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!!! In dealing with the blamer you will come out feeling like it is all your fault, causing you depression, self loathing and self destructive tendencies. RUN, RUN, RUN!!!
The blamer (narcissist/negative person) does NOT see one thing wrong that they do. They believe they are always right and everyone else is wrong. The blamer thinks it is their duty to point out that everyone else is wrong, thinks they are helping by putting others down and telling them they are wrong, and by blaming others.The blamer (narcissist/negative person) has NO respect for others.
In their eyes they do NO wrong. The blamer loves only them self and no one else. They have no respect for them self or for others but they want to be respected, admired and envied.
Trying to defend and protect yourself from the blamer (narcissist/negative person) will only make the situation worse on you and they will attack you even more. If you try to point out your innocence or their wrong doings, they will attack you even more with a very explosive anger towards you. The blamer will even go as far as to set you up, make it appear to others that you are the evil one, everything is your fault and that they are innocent.
The blamer (narcissist/negative person) shows different sides of their personality/behavior to different people. They tend to flip behavior/personality; one minute everything is fine but the next minute they are angry.
The blamer will be highly admired by some people because they never see the blamer's dark side behavior/personality, that they are inflicting on their victims.
Blamers (narcissist/negative people) are very deceptive and manipulative at all times, not just occasionally.
If a blamer (narcissist) makes a mistake they tend to blame others immediately and start the attack on another person or persons before they can be caught in their wrong doings. The blamer (narcissist) sees NO wrong in lying and will lie when there is no need to lie. They throw their wrong doings onto others to cover up their evil/sins instead of admitting it and taking blame for their wrong doings.
The blamer (narcissist) can make you feel distressed, anxious, guilty and incompetent, after having to deal with them. The blamer (narcissist) can and will blame you even when you are no where in their life and have nothing to do with them. That is what a "Blamer" (narcissist) does, in order to try & make others think they are perfect and do no wrong. They have no regard and no respect for anyone or their feelings or their life.
A blamer/narcissist chooses their victims. When they are choosing their victims they are very calculating as to what they are trying to achieve with their bullying, manipulation and deception.
The blamer/narcissist can even manipulate and deceive experts, so do not blame yourself if you have fell into the trap of a narcissist person. Just cut off all communication and contact with this person, and run the other way just as hard as you can run!!!
After spending time with this type person or just being associated with this person, makes you feel guilty, upset, emotionally exhausted, confused, useless and incompetent. This is a negative/narcissist person that is also known as a "blamer".
At first this narcissist person can be charming, very likable and very believing, without exposing their dark side. Then their dark side comes out which is the "blamer", their negative/narcissist personality. That is when you get hammered by their true personality (narcissist/negative) of them blaming you for everything wrong in their life, you are blamed for their mistakes and their deceptions/sins. Trying to be rational with this type person, show them you are hurt and innocent, does NOT work, it makes it even worse.
This type person is a "BLAMER", with a narcissist/negative personality. They blame others for anything and everything. They NEVER take responsibility or admit their wrong doings or their faults. This person is NOT an occasional blamer, they are a 24/ 7 continual blamer.
This blamer (narcissist/negative person) can appear to be very caring, charming, interested in you and others when you first meet them. It is not until later that you realize this relationship with this person is a nightmare from hell.
BEWARE: this blamer is the most destructive narcissist/negative person you can ever deal with, which will bring negative thinking and behavior into you and your life. This person will bring you anguish and distress as long as you associate with them.
This blamer can make you feel as though something is wrong with you, and if you were a better person or smarter or nicer or just did the right things, then the relationship between you and the blamer would be better. WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!!! In dealing with the blamer you will come out feeling like it is all your fault, causing you depression, self loathing and self destructive tendencies. RUN, RUN, RUN!!!
The blamer (narcissist/negative person) does NOT see one thing wrong that they do. They believe they are always right and everyone else is wrong. The blamer thinks it is their duty to point out that everyone else is wrong, thinks they are helping by putting others down and telling them they are wrong, and by blaming others.The blamer (narcissist/negative person) has NO respect for others.
In their eyes they do NO wrong. The blamer loves only them self and no one else. They have no respect for them self or for others but they want to be respected, admired and envied.
Trying to defend and protect yourself from the blamer (narcissist/negative person) will only make the situation worse on you and they will attack you even more. If you try to point out your innocence or their wrong doings, they will attack you even more with a very explosive anger towards you. The blamer will even go as far as to set you up, make it appear to others that you are the evil one, everything is your fault and that they are innocent.
The blamer (narcissist/negative person) shows different sides of their personality/behavior to different people. They tend to flip behavior/personality; one minute everything is fine but the next minute they are angry.
The blamer will be highly admired by some people because they never see the blamer's dark side behavior/personality, that they are inflicting on their victims.
Blamers (narcissist/negative people) are very deceptive and manipulative at all times, not just occasionally.
If a blamer (narcissist) makes a mistake they tend to blame others immediately and start the attack on another person or persons before they can be caught in their wrong doings. The blamer (narcissist) sees NO wrong in lying and will lie when there is no need to lie. They throw their wrong doings onto others to cover up their evil/sins instead of admitting it and taking blame for their wrong doings.
The blamer (narcissist) can make you feel distressed, anxious, guilty and incompetent, after having to deal with them. The blamer (narcissist) can and will blame you even when you are no where in their life and have nothing to do with them. That is what a "Blamer" (narcissist) does, in order to try & make others think they are perfect and do no wrong. They have no regard and no respect for anyone or their feelings or their life.
A blamer/narcissist chooses their victims. When they are choosing their victims they are very calculating as to what they are trying to achieve with their bullying, manipulation and deception.
The blamer/narcissist can even manipulate and deceive experts, so do not blame yourself if you have fell into the trap of a narcissist person. Just cut off all communication and contact with this person, and run the other way just as hard as you can run!!!
Thursday, January 26, 2012
Own Your Mistakes
Some people had rather hide or deny their own mistakes, instead of owning up to them. They become defensive, offer excuses and try to throw the blame on others, making no effort to righting their wrong or to prove them self credible and respectable.
There are many good reasons that we should own up to our mistakes and correct them, and NO good reasons for trying to hide them, deny them or blame others for them.
Owning up to your own mistakes is the only just and right thing to do. Thinking that your mistakes will not be found out or noticed is another stupid mistake. Thinking your mistakes will be silently forgiven only discredits you and your reputation even more. It is important to own up to your mistakes immediately, demonstrating an effort of fixing it and improving your self to do better.
When you learn to own up to your mistakes it makes you a better person. You cannot not learn from your mistakes if you are to busy trying to hide them, deny them, run from them or try blaming others for them.
No one is perfect and we all make mistakes but how you handle your mistakes screams loudly to the world just what kind of person you truly are. Owning up to, correcting and learning from your mistakes teaches you honor, strength and resilience.
When we make mistakes and get defensive, when we are caught trying to hide them or deny them, proves we are a lesser person, not very credible and not trustworthy at all. Trying to shift blame to others for your mistakes makes you dishonorable, dishonest and weak.
When you don't try to cover up your mistakes it makes your eyes open up to life's lessons so you may strive to do better the next time around, no matter how small or large.
If you don't own your mistakes and correct them, then they will linger in your life constantly causing more and more damage. Don't let your ego stop you from owning up to and correcting your mistakes. Admitting and correcting your mistakes will bring you freedom from taking responsibility, gives you a sense of peace, will bring you happiness, and will release you so you may move forward.
There are many good reasons that we should own up to our mistakes and correct them, and NO good reasons for trying to hide them, deny them or blame others for them.
Owning up to your own mistakes is the only just and right thing to do. Thinking that your mistakes will not be found out or noticed is another stupid mistake. Thinking your mistakes will be silently forgiven only discredits you and your reputation even more. It is important to own up to your mistakes immediately, demonstrating an effort of fixing it and improving your self to do better.
When you learn to own up to your mistakes it makes you a better person. You cannot not learn from your mistakes if you are to busy trying to hide them, deny them, run from them or try blaming others for them.
No one is perfect and we all make mistakes but how you handle your mistakes screams loudly to the world just what kind of person you truly are. Owning up to, correcting and learning from your mistakes teaches you honor, strength and resilience.
When we make mistakes and get defensive, when we are caught trying to hide them or deny them, proves we are a lesser person, not very credible and not trustworthy at all. Trying to shift blame to others for your mistakes makes you dishonorable, dishonest and weak.
When you don't try to cover up your mistakes it makes your eyes open up to life's lessons so you may strive to do better the next time around, no matter how small or large.
If you don't own your mistakes and correct them, then they will linger in your life constantly causing more and more damage. Don't let your ego stop you from owning up to and correcting your mistakes. Admitting and correcting your mistakes will bring you freedom from taking responsibility, gives you a sense of peace, will bring you happiness, and will release you so you may move forward.
Trying to hide your mistakes because you are ashamed and embarrassed only makes them worse and doesn't solve the problem. You may think you are hiding your mistakes but you are not, because nothing is truly hidden once the act is done or the word is spoken, it is in the open for all the world to see & hear.
..."the truth shall set you free"...
John 8:32
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
God, Please Help Me...
Please help me…
to find the strength to get up when I just want to give up. to speak up the next time he/she disrespects or abuses me. to guard myself from family/friends who challenge my trust, faith, to be grateful and show up for my job even though I don't enjoy it. to be a good provider for myself and my family with less stress to resist my addictions (i.e. shoes, food, alcohol, drugs, shopping, to say “no” to things that can destroy my life, health and to discover my special anointed gifts, talents and purpose. to be successful in my business and leadership roles. to meet the right people who can enrich and better my life. to fill my lonely hours with productivity, peace and wholeness. to forgive and let go of my pain, bitterness and anger. to heal my grieving heart for the ones I have lost and miss so much. to stop worrying about my loved ones in trouble, the war, hospital or prison. to endure and keep my faith as I wait for my miracle. to remember, that spite of it all, I am, too blessed to be stressed. to remember that You are the source of supply. to be blessed and to be a blessing to others. to keep pressing toward my mark of a higher calling. to stay in the light to see You more clearly, follow You nearly
to find the strength to get up when I just want to give up. to speak up the next time he/she disrespects or abuses me. to guard myself from family/friends who challenge my trust, faith,time and money.
to be grateful and show up for my job even though I don't enjoy it. to be a good provider for myself and my family with less stressand struggle.
to resist my addictions (i.e. shoes, food, alcohol, drugs, shopping,gambling, bad relationships, porn, etc.)
to say “no” to things that can destroy my life, health andrelationships.
to discover my special anointed gifts, talents and purpose. to be successful in my business and leadership roles. to meet the right people who can enrich and better my life. to fill my lonely hours with productivity, peace and wholeness. to forgive and let go of my pain, bitterness and anger. to heal my grieving heart for the ones I have lost and miss so much. to stop worrying about my loved ones in trouble, the war, hospital or prison. to endure and keep my faith as I wait for my miracle. to remember, that spite of it all, I am, too blessed to be stressed. to remember that You are the source of supply. to be blessed and to be a blessing to others. to keep pressing toward my mark of a higher calling. to stay in the light to see You more clearly, follow You nearlyand love You more dearly.
by Jewel Diamond Taylor, Minister, Conference Keynotes Speaker, author and
Founder of Women on the Grow
Positive or Negative? Which are You?
ATTITUDES
POSITIVE TRAITS | NEGATIVE TRAITS | |
accepts authority, loyal, devoted | rebellious, defiant | |
accepts what's given | ignores, rejects what's given | |
affectionate | distant, cold, aloof | |
aspiring, ambitious, motivated | self-satisfied, unmotivated | |
candid | closed, guarded, secretive | |
caring | uncaring, unfeeling, callous | |
change; accepts, embraces | rejects change | |
cheerful | cheerless, gloomy, sour, grumpy | |
considerate, thoughtful | inconsiderate, thoughtless | |
cooperative | uncooperative, unhelpful, combative | |
courageous | cowering, fearful | |
courteous | rude, impolite | |
decisive | indecisive | |
devoted | uncommitted, uncaring, hostile | |
determined | indecisive, unsure | |
does what is necessary, right | does what is convenient | |
perseveres, endures | relents, gives up | |
enthusiastic | unenthusiastic, apathetic, indifferent | |
expansive | kept back, tight, constricting | |
faith in life | life can't be trusted | |
faith in oneself | lack of faith in self | |
faith in others | others can't be relied on or trusted | |
flexible | inflexible, rigid, unbending, stubborn | |
forgiving | unforgiving, resentful, spiteful | |
focused | unfocused, scattered | |
freedom given to others | authoritarian, controlling | |
friendly | unfriendly, distant, aloof, hostile | |
frugal, thrifty | wasteful, spendthrift | |
generous | stingy, miserly, selfish | |
goodwill | ill-will, malice, hatred | |
grateful | ungrateful, unappreciative | |
hard-working | lazy | |
honest | dishonest, deceiving, lying | |
humble | arrogant, conceited, ego-centric | |
interested | indifferent, uncaring | |
involved | complacent, indifferent | |
jealous, not | jealous, envious, covetous | |
kind | unkind, uncaring, cruel, mean | |
mature | immature | |
modest | vain | |
open-minded, tolerant | narrow, close, small-minded, intolerant | |
optimistic | pessimistic | |
perfects | allows imperfection | |
persistent, sustaining | flagging, fleeting, unsustaining | |
positive | negative | |
practical | impractical, not viable | |
punctual | late, not on time | |
realistic | impractical | |
reliable | unreliable, undependable | |
respectful | disrespectful, rude, impolite | |
responsibility; takes- | blames others | |
responsible | unreliable, unreceptive | |
self-confident | lack of self confidence, insecure | |
self-directed | directed by externals | |
self-disciplined | undisciplined, unrestrained, indulgent | |
self-esteem; high- | self-esteem; confidence - low | |
self-giving | self-centered | |
self-reliant | dependent | |
selfless | selfish | |
sensitive | insensitive, indifferent | |
serious | silly, trivial, petty | |
sincere | insincere, dishonest | |
social independence | social approval required | |
sympathetic | unsympathetic, unfeeling | |
systematic | unsystematic, disorganized, disorderly | |
takes others point of view | insist on own point of view | |
thoughtful towards others | thoughtless, inconsiderate, callous | |
trusting | suspicious, mistrusting | |
unpretentious | pretentious, affected, ostentatious | |
unselfish | selfish | |
willing does, willingness | unwilling, reluctant, recalcitrant | |
work-oriented | convenience first, lazy | |
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Tuesday, January 10, 2012
Love or Addiction???
Most people wonder and question why abused women stay in an abusive relationship, how they ever got into an abusive relationship, and why they do not stand up for them self and leave. Until you have been in an abusive relationship and understand how the abuser takes control mentally and emotionally, then you will never understand. There are more women in prison because of man addiction/abuse than any other crimes committed.
Hopefully this will help you in understanding the process and reason why women stay or keep going back to their abuser/ex. So maybe it will help you to understand and help someone you know in an abusive relationship.
Abuse doesn't start with the beatings, the abuser starts by getting control mentally and emotionally at the start of the relationship. An abuser is usually a coward when standing alone and is scared of anyone they do not have mental and emotional control over. An abuser doesn't like or associate with anyone that they cannot manipulate and intimidate. They can not handle it when they are not the center of attention and do not have full control of their surroundings and everyone around them. They are usually blowing their own horn, bragging about everything they have done, can do or own, but in reality they usually are lying, don't have a pot to piss in, and can't pour piss out of a boot with the instruction on the bottom. An abuser has NO respect for women, themselves or anyone. They are usually liars, arrogant, rude, obnoxious, belittling or verbally threatening anyone that intimidates them (which is very easy to do), manipulative and thinks the whole world owes them and should bow down to them. Now that you have an idea of the abuser, now lets look at the victim/woman.
An abuser couldn't get control of a woman mentally and emotionally if there wasn't this chemical that is produced in the human body called "Oxytocin". Oxytocin is a chemical produced by the body which produces the emotions in us of trust, love and so forth, this so called "warm and fuzzy feeling" when we think we love someone. Oxytocin is a neurochemical that creates these warm and fuzzy feelings/emotions in us that we associate with our emotional bonds to other people.
When people talk about their feelings of love for someone, they are describing the feelings/emotions produced by oxytocin. Oxytocin is highly addictive, even more addictive than heroin. Oxytocin doesn't have that much to do with romantic love, it dominates the feelings we have for love and a long-term relationship. Basically, the woman gets addicted to the oxytocin and not the so called love for the abuser/ex, so the longer the woman is with the abuser the stronger the bond becomes, because of the intensity of the oxytocin addiction.
If or when the woman leaves the abuser/ex, just like any other addictive chemical, there will be about 3 days wait until the woman starts experiencing oxytocin withdrawal symptoms. So, in reality, the woman is having withdrawals from the oxytocin, making her think she is painfully missing her abuser/ex ,making her think she truly loves him and is bonded to him, unaware that it is the oxytocin she is missing and craving, not her abuser/ex. So once the woman is away from her abuser, about 3 days later she will start having oxytocin withdrawal symptoms, making her forget all the bad and the abuse, while only remembering what little good there was in the relationship, making her think she is painfully missing her abuser/ex.
The oxytocin withdrawals are more severe than the withdrawals of heroin addiction. The damaging fact is that women are taught all their lives that these oxytocin chemical induced feelings are feelings of love. So the oxytocin withdrawal symptoms, her feeling and her beliefs push her to go back to her abuser/ex, unaware that she is experiencing oxytocin withdrawals and not true love for her abuser/ex.
Abused men go through the same oxytocin process, but the effects of the oxytocin in women are far more significantly stronger than in men. The female harmone, estrogen, multiplies the effects of oxytocin in women by about 10 times more than in men.
Hopefully this will give you a different way of looking at abused women, even though abused women refuse to admit they are abused and they refuse to leave their abuser/ex.
Hopefully this will help you in understanding the process and reason why women stay or keep going back to their abuser/ex. So maybe it will help you to understand and help someone you know in an abusive relationship.
Abuse doesn't start with the beatings, the abuser starts by getting control mentally and emotionally at the start of the relationship. An abuser is usually a coward when standing alone and is scared of anyone they do not have mental and emotional control over. An abuser doesn't like or associate with anyone that they cannot manipulate and intimidate. They can not handle it when they are not the center of attention and do not have full control of their surroundings and everyone around them. They are usually blowing their own horn, bragging about everything they have done, can do or own, but in reality they usually are lying, don't have a pot to piss in, and can't pour piss out of a boot with the instruction on the bottom. An abuser has NO respect for women, themselves or anyone. They are usually liars, arrogant, rude, obnoxious, belittling or verbally threatening anyone that intimidates them (which is very easy to do), manipulative and thinks the whole world owes them and should bow down to them. Now that you have an idea of the abuser, now lets look at the victim/woman.
An abuser couldn't get control of a woman mentally and emotionally if there wasn't this chemical that is produced in the human body called "Oxytocin". Oxytocin is a chemical produced by the body which produces the emotions in us of trust, love and so forth, this so called "warm and fuzzy feeling" when we think we love someone. Oxytocin is a neurochemical that creates these warm and fuzzy feelings/emotions in us that we associate with our emotional bonds to other people.
When people talk about their feelings of love for someone, they are describing the feelings/emotions produced by oxytocin. Oxytocin is highly addictive, even more addictive than heroin. Oxytocin doesn't have that much to do with romantic love, it dominates the feelings we have for love and a long-term relationship. Basically, the woman gets addicted to the oxytocin and not the so called love for the abuser/ex, so the longer the woman is with the abuser the stronger the bond becomes, because of the intensity of the oxytocin addiction.
If or when the woman leaves the abuser/ex, just like any other addictive chemical, there will be about 3 days wait until the woman starts experiencing oxytocin withdrawal symptoms. So, in reality, the woman is having withdrawals from the oxytocin, making her think she is painfully missing her abuser/ex ,making her think she truly loves him and is bonded to him, unaware that it is the oxytocin she is missing and craving, not her abuser/ex. So once the woman is away from her abuser, about 3 days later she will start having oxytocin withdrawal symptoms, making her forget all the bad and the abuse, while only remembering what little good there was in the relationship, making her think she is painfully missing her abuser/ex.
The oxytocin withdrawals are more severe than the withdrawals of heroin addiction. The damaging fact is that women are taught all their lives that these oxytocin chemical induced feelings are feelings of love. So the oxytocin withdrawal symptoms, her feeling and her beliefs push her to go back to her abuser/ex, unaware that she is experiencing oxytocin withdrawals and not true love for her abuser/ex.
Abused men go through the same oxytocin process, but the effects of the oxytocin in women are far more significantly stronger than in men. The female harmone, estrogen, multiplies the effects of oxytocin in women by about 10 times more than in men.
Hopefully this will give you a different way of looking at abused women, even though abused women refuse to admit they are abused and they refuse to leave their abuser/ex.
Abused women are addicted to abusive relationships (abuser/ex) because of their unknown addiction to "Oxytocin", NOT LOVE!!!
Sunday, January 8, 2012
Masquerades...
People seem to think of Satan as a red-eyed hideous evil being with horns, long pointed tail, carrying a pitchfork. Nothing could be farther from the truth. If Satan came to us as this red-eyed hideous evil being, we would be so terrified that we would run straight to God's arms.
Satan comes to steal, kill and destroy, and he is the master of lies and manipulation, to keep us from serving God. The greater the plan God has for our life, the harder Satan will try to deceive us and to destroy us.
Satan will use anything and anyone he can to accomplish his goal, of getting us to serve & follow him and not God. Satan can even come in the form of humans: false Jesus, false prophets, false preachers, etc., so what makes us think he can't infiltrate our lives using people to destroy us and God's plan for us? We as humans are so blind to Satan and his disguises.
Satan can use parents, children, spouses/mates, someone we care for and/or love, friends, false preachers/teachers, money, computers, TVs, phones, games, hobbies, drugs, alcohol, pornography... the list can go on and on.
Satan's masquerades to disguise himself into something that will attract us and capture us in his snares of destruction. His main goal is to send something or someone into our lives to take us away from the plan God has for us and to stop us from serving God, so we will be another one of his trophies in hell.
Not all parents are bad parents but so many are in today's society. They do not raise their children to serve God and not Satan; to have respect for others and themselves; to stay away from the drugs, alcohol and the wrong people; to work for what they need and want instead of using, manipulating and stealing as a means of getting; they do not teach their children ethics and morals; etc... This is only leading their children right into Satan's traps of destruction and hell. When a parent chooses drugs, alcohol or even a person over their child, then they are leaving that child defenseless and wide open for Satan to step in and take control of that child and the child's future, because the parent isn't there to protect the child from the damage of rejection.
Parents do not look at their children as a tool for Satan but we need to open our eyes. Children are a blessing from God and they can be a blessing but they also can be used as a tool for Satan. When children give us grief; are defiant and rebellious; in trouble/causing trouble; using and manipulating us; draining us dry mentally, emotionally, physically and financially; and distracting us from keeping our focus on God and serving God, then yes, Satan is using this child as one of his tools of destruction. That is why it is so important to speak and pray blessings over our children, and to raise them to serve God and not Satan.
A spouse/mate can be a one way ticket straight to hell if we are not careful in choosing our spouse/mate. Good and evil cannot connect with a good outcome because the evil will do everything in its power to destroy any and all good in it's path. We tend to think our spouse/mate loves us and will not do anything to hurt or destroy us because they love us. Question: Is that love true Godly love or is it just another word you want to hear, for you to be drawn into Satan's trap? When we think someone loves us we have a tendency to close our eyes to the truth, real-life reality, the true nature of this person, their self-centered agenda's, their lifestyle choices and their faults, and the fact they could be nothing but a tool for Satan. Everyone is guilty of this at some point in time, even myself, but this is from wanting to be loved, blinded by a human love/lust and being human.
If you choose a spouse/mate that doesn't honestly and openly serve the one and only God (be careful of what god they serve) then you best run as fast as you can away from this person because they are there as a tool for Satan. Whether you have a spouse/mate that is as good as they come or not, if they do not respect you and themselves, and serving God above everything else, then they will probably lead you to hell with them. They can be abusive or good as gold but if they do not care if you go to hell or not then that person doesn't truly love you or love God.
This also goes for family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, church people, strangers, etc... Close your ears to the deceitful lies of Satan and watch the actions of people: are they of Satan or of God? Actions speak louder than words. If people in your life is not concerned enough to lead you to heaven, then you can bank on the fact that they are a tool of Satan, sent there to destroy God's plan for you, to stop you from following God and lead you straight into hell with them!!!
Satan will even send people into your life that you despise/hate, if he thinks you will spend your time and energy on despising/hating this person, instead of focusing on God and serving God.
Stop and think of all the masquerades and disguises of Satan.
How much time do we spend gossiping on the phone; watching TV; on the computer or playing games; time spent on our hobbies; thinking about such things as money, drugs, alcohol, pornography, sex, etc.............?
Think about how much wasted time we spend involved in Satan's masquerades of human pleasures, instead of using some of that time to serve God and insuring that we, and everyone we know and meet, go to heaven and not hell. I am not saying to give up everyone and everything but we do need to open our eyes to the real truth and to the masks that Satan wears to steal, kill and destroy us and God's plan and future for us!!!
Satan comes to steal, kill and destroy, and he is the master of lies and manipulation, to keep us from serving God. The greater the plan God has for our life, the harder Satan will try to deceive us and to destroy us.
Satan will use anything and anyone he can to accomplish his goal, of getting us to serve & follow him and not God. Satan can even come in the form of humans: false Jesus, false prophets, false preachers, etc., so what makes us think he can't infiltrate our lives using people to destroy us and God's plan for us? We as humans are so blind to Satan and his disguises.
Satan can use parents, children, spouses/mates, someone we care for and/or love, friends, false preachers/teachers, money, computers, TVs, phones, games, hobbies, drugs, alcohol, pornography... the list can go on and on.
Satan's masquerades to disguise himself into something that will attract us and capture us in his snares of destruction. His main goal is to send something or someone into our lives to take us away from the plan God has for us and to stop us from serving God, so we will be another one of his trophies in hell.
Not all parents are bad parents but so many are in today's society. They do not raise their children to serve God and not Satan; to have respect for others and themselves; to stay away from the drugs, alcohol and the wrong people; to work for what they need and want instead of using, manipulating and stealing as a means of getting; they do not teach their children ethics and morals; etc... This is only leading their children right into Satan's traps of destruction and hell. When a parent chooses drugs, alcohol or even a person over their child, then they are leaving that child defenseless and wide open for Satan to step in and take control of that child and the child's future, because the parent isn't there to protect the child from the damage of rejection.
Parents do not look at their children as a tool for Satan but we need to open our eyes. Children are a blessing from God and they can be a blessing but they also can be used as a tool for Satan. When children give us grief; are defiant and rebellious; in trouble/causing trouble; using and manipulating us; draining us dry mentally, emotionally, physically and financially; and distracting us from keeping our focus on God and serving God, then yes, Satan is using this child as one of his tools of destruction. That is why it is so important to speak and pray blessings over our children, and to raise them to serve God and not Satan.
A spouse/mate can be a one way ticket straight to hell if we are not careful in choosing our spouse/mate. Good and evil cannot connect with a good outcome because the evil will do everything in its power to destroy any and all good in it's path. We tend to think our spouse/mate loves us and will not do anything to hurt or destroy us because they love us. Question: Is that love true Godly love or is it just another word you want to hear, for you to be drawn into Satan's trap? When we think someone loves us we have a tendency to close our eyes to the truth, real-life reality, the true nature of this person, their self-centered agenda's, their lifestyle choices and their faults, and the fact they could be nothing but a tool for Satan. Everyone is guilty of this at some point in time, even myself, but this is from wanting to be loved, blinded by a human love/lust and being human.
If you choose a spouse/mate that doesn't honestly and openly serve the one and only God (be careful of what god they serve) then you best run as fast as you can away from this person because they are there as a tool for Satan. Whether you have a spouse/mate that is as good as they come or not, if they do not respect you and themselves, and serving God above everything else, then they will probably lead you to hell with them. They can be abusive or good as gold but if they do not care if you go to hell or not then that person doesn't truly love you or love God.
This also goes for family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, church people, strangers, etc... Close your ears to the deceitful lies of Satan and watch the actions of people: are they of Satan or of God? Actions speak louder than words. If people in your life is not concerned enough to lead you to heaven, then you can bank on the fact that they are a tool of Satan, sent there to destroy God's plan for you, to stop you from following God and lead you straight into hell with them!!!
Satan will even send people into your life that you despise/hate, if he thinks you will spend your time and energy on despising/hating this person, instead of focusing on God and serving God.
Stop and think of all the masquerades and disguises of Satan.
How much time do we spend gossiping on the phone; watching TV; on the computer or playing games; time spent on our hobbies; thinking about such things as money, drugs, alcohol, pornography, sex, etc.............?
Think about how much wasted time we spend involved in Satan's masquerades of human pleasures, instead of using some of that time to serve God and insuring that we, and everyone we know and meet, go to heaven and not hell. I am not saying to give up everyone and everything but we do need to open our eyes to the real truth and to the masks that Satan wears to steal, kill and destroy us and God's plan and future for us!!!
"And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light"
2nd Corinthians 11:14
Saturday, January 7, 2012
Road Map of Life
The longest sermon in the Bible that Jesus gave is "the Sermon on the Mount", the road map of life, "the Beatitudes" (Matt. 5:3-12). The Beatitudes was just part of the Sermon on the Mount.
The word "Beatitude" means "Blessed". The Beatitudes should guide us, point us in the right direction, teach us and show us the values that Jesus wants us to have and live by.
I, myself, fall way short of this and disappointed in myself for this short coming and for allowing myself to fall into the world of evil and human mistakes!!! We seem to have sort of a wrong thinking of what the Beatitudes really mean, myself included. Hopefully this will help us all to understand them better and help us live by them.
1. Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.
God blesses those who are poor in spirit and realizes their need for Him, for the Kingdom of Heaven is given to them. The poor means "poor in spirit", not financially poor. Poor in Spirit means that we realize we fall short of what God wants us to be and that we all are unworthy of God's Grace. Jesus says that only the poor in spirit will enter into the Heaven because they confess, turn from their sins and turn to Jesus. The poor in spirit knows without God we can't be forgiven and made a new person.
2. Blessed are they who mourn, for they shall be comforted.
God blesses those who mourn, for He will comfort them. This doesn't mean those who mourn the death of someone, but the person who becomes poor in spirit and repents. It means to realize we are sinners and realizing just how much our sins hurts us, others and God. Until we realize this, repent and receive the Holy Spirit we cannot truly mourn over our sins. When we mourn over our sins, only then can God comfort us and make us a new person.
3. Blessed are the meek, for they shall possess the earth.
God blesses those who are gentle and lowly, for they will inherit the whole earth. Jesus says, who are humble and meek will inherit the earth. These words do NOT mean weak as we think of them. These words mean strong, powerful, trained and disciplined so that we can serve God and be used by God.
4. Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for justice, for they shall be satisfied.
God blesses those who hunger and thirst for Him and His justice, for they will be satisfied by God. Those who want justice is to want righteousness and right living for ourselves and others. You will find love, honour and justice in searching for righteousness. God will make sure we are fully satisfied once we do our best to want what is right for ourselves and others
5. Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.
God blesses those who are merciful. Mercy is love for those who need support and help, especially in forgiveness. God shows us mercy everyday and expects us to show mercy to others everyday. We must forgive and show mercy because if we don't then God cannot forgive us and show us mercy. To show mercy we have to live a life of love. There is no mercy without love.
6. Blessed are the pure of heart, for they shall see God.
God blesses those whose heart is pure. To have a pure heart is to become holy and the only way to do that is to keep your heart full of God's words. If you keep your heart full of God's words, then there is no room for sin and evil. If you live by God's words/instructions then your heart will be pure. When we are pure in heart we will see God in our everyday life here on earth and when we get to Heaven.
7. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
God blesses those who work for peace. Making peace doesn't mean trying to keep everyone happy or saying yes to everyone and everything. A peacemaker builds their character on truth and righteousness, and are at peace with God. Peacemakers plant seeds of peace and God's word, and reaps the harvest of goodness by being known as a child of God.
8. Blessed are they who suffer persecution for justice sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
God blesses those who are persecuted because they live for Him. If we live for God, we will suffer because today's society is all for evil and will persecute you for serving God. They will laugh at you, ridicule you, mock you, make nasty comments and sometimes physically abuse you, just as they did Jesus. The world and Satan hates Jesus and will hate you for following Him. If you are persecuted, then be happy because that is proof you are following Jesus and you will be received into Heaven, where there is no more suffering.
The word "Beatitude" means "Blessed". The Beatitudes should guide us, point us in the right direction, teach us and show us the values that Jesus wants us to have and live by.
I, myself, fall way short of this and disappointed in myself for this short coming and for allowing myself to fall into the world of evil and human mistakes!!! We seem to have sort of a wrong thinking of what the Beatitudes really mean, myself included. Hopefully this will help us all to understand them better and help us live by them.
1. Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.
God blesses those who are poor in spirit and realizes their need for Him, for the Kingdom of Heaven is given to them. The poor means "poor in spirit", not financially poor. Poor in Spirit means that we realize we fall short of what God wants us to be and that we all are unworthy of God's Grace. Jesus says that only the poor in spirit will enter into the Heaven because they confess, turn from their sins and turn to Jesus. The poor in spirit knows without God we can't be forgiven and made a new person.
2. Blessed are they who mourn, for they shall be comforted.
God blesses those who mourn, for He will comfort them. This doesn't mean those who mourn the death of someone, but the person who becomes poor in spirit and repents. It means to realize we are sinners and realizing just how much our sins hurts us, others and God. Until we realize this, repent and receive the Holy Spirit we cannot truly mourn over our sins. When we mourn over our sins, only then can God comfort us and make us a new person.
3. Blessed are the meek, for they shall possess the earth.
God blesses those who are gentle and lowly, for they will inherit the whole earth. Jesus says, who are humble and meek will inherit the earth. These words do NOT mean weak as we think of them. These words mean strong, powerful, trained and disciplined so that we can serve God and be used by God.
4. Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for justice, for they shall be satisfied.
God blesses those who hunger and thirst for Him and His justice, for they will be satisfied by God. Those who want justice is to want righteousness and right living for ourselves and others. You will find love, honour and justice in searching for righteousness. God will make sure we are fully satisfied once we do our best to want what is right for ourselves and others
5. Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.
God blesses those who are merciful. Mercy is love for those who need support and help, especially in forgiveness. God shows us mercy everyday and expects us to show mercy to others everyday. We must forgive and show mercy because if we don't then God cannot forgive us and show us mercy. To show mercy we have to live a life of love. There is no mercy without love.
6. Blessed are the pure of heart, for they shall see God.
God blesses those whose heart is pure. To have a pure heart is to become holy and the only way to do that is to keep your heart full of God's words. If you keep your heart full of God's words, then there is no room for sin and evil. If you live by God's words/instructions then your heart will be pure. When we are pure in heart we will see God in our everyday life here on earth and when we get to Heaven.
7. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
God blesses those who work for peace. Making peace doesn't mean trying to keep everyone happy or saying yes to everyone and everything. A peacemaker builds their character on truth and righteousness, and are at peace with God. Peacemakers plant seeds of peace and God's word, and reaps the harvest of goodness by being known as a child of God.
8. Blessed are they who suffer persecution for justice sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
God blesses those who are persecuted because they live for Him. If we live for God, we will suffer because today's society is all for evil and will persecute you for serving God. They will laugh at you, ridicule you, mock you, make nasty comments and sometimes physically abuse you, just as they did Jesus. The world and Satan hates Jesus and will hate you for following Him. If you are persecuted, then be happy because that is proof you are following Jesus and you will be received into Heaven, where there is no more suffering.
"the road map of life from Jesus to all of us"
Matthew 18:3 "Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven."
Matthew 18:4 "Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child, will be the greatest in the kingdom of heaven."
Matthew 18:4 "Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child, will be the greatest in the kingdom of heaven."
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