Wednesday, August 29, 2012

You, "A Real Man", You Think?

You think you are a real man? Do you guys even have a clue what  "A Real Man" is? Ladies do you even know what you are to be looking for in guys so you can find yourselves "A Real Man"? Society's idea of "A Real Man" is deceiving, misleading, a lie and just flat out wrong!!! It isn't someone that has male genitals hanging between their legs running around trying to convince everyone including themselves that they are "A Real Man".
The characteristics of "A Real Man" are very plain and simple, and the bad part is there are very very few real men in the world today. The characteristics of "A Real Man" is not what man can beat on his chest the hardest, who can yell the loudest, who can bully others, who can manipulate, con, cheat, lie and abuse others or who can bench press the most.
Below are the characteristics of "A Real Man":
HUMILITY - Humility demands you know your weaknesses and that you are modest about your strengths, not running around bragging, boasting and parading your strengths trying to convince others just how great "you think you are".
Man's sin nature tells him he is to be sinfully proud, arrogant and boastful. Pride is also another one of man's greatest downfalls. Sinfully proud, arrogance,ego boasting, and misleading pride will always get a man into trouble."A Real Man" does NOT display or act sinfully proud, arrogant, boastful or prideful. 1st Peter 3:6.
A humble man can recognizes the truth that there are more powerful people than he and that God is the only true power that created him and can save him. He recognizes his own weaknesses and failings. He recognizes where praise is due and not to himself. "A Real Man" has the maturity to be humble and meek.
MEEKNESS - Meekness is NOT weakness! It is the combination of humility and trust. The meek man understands his own limits and relies on God who is more powerful.
"A Real Man" is meek and submits (follows and obeys) to authority and the authority of God, who will give him strength and courage. Meekness is the key to "Victory". James 4:7.
STRENGTH and COURAGE - Strength and courage will come from and rise out of meekness. This is not physical strength or physical courage. The strength of mind and emotions will bring out fearless courage.
Strength and courage will mark "Real Men". The strength and courage is there because "A Real Man" is part of a mission and willing to stand up for what is right, be counted, and sacrifice himself if need be. "A Real Man" is honest at all times no matter what.
LEADERSHIP - "A Real Man" knows he is going in the right direction and leads others. A leader has convictions and he inspires others. Guys who father a child outside of marriage are NOT real men. Guys who shack up with a woman instead of marrying her is NOT real men. Guys who do NOT lead their families in the right direction legally, ethically, morally and religiously are NOT real men.
Leadership is the mark of "A Real Man". Leadership does NOT mean dictatorship. Real men lead by example and persuasion, NOT by power or threats. 1st Tim. 3:5; Titus 1.
Leadership demands other characteristics of "A Real Man"; mentor/teacher.
MENTOR/TEACHER - Mentoring is a process of passing on the TRUE characteristics of "A Real Man". Real men mentor and sharpen other men. "A Real Man" mentors and trains his children in the right way to go and lifestyle. A father/real man will mentor/teach and lead his children by example of all the characteristics of "A Real Man" - humility, meekness, strength, courage, leadership and integrity. Deut. 6:4-9; Eph. 6:3,4; Col. 4:21; 1st Tim. 3:4,5.
INTEGRITY - Integrity is moral soundness and wholeness. "A Real Man" with integrity is honest, he keeps his word, and he holds fast to his principles, no matter what. He stands firm and does not waver. He who walks in integrity walks securely, but he who perverts his ways will be found out. Prov. 10:9.
Integrity is important in everything; our lives, socially, and in business. Your integrity is important as "A Real Man" so that others knows that you can be trusted and dependable.
"A Real Man" keeps his promises, practices what he preaches and does NOT lie.
PROVIDER - "A Real Man" works and provides for his family. Provider doesn't just mean financially but also looking out for and caring for his families needs physically, emotionally, and mentally. "A Real Man" is not lazy and does not look for a handout. Tim. 5:8; Thess. 3:10-13.
"A Real Man lives a disciplined life, providing for his family and others. Eph. 4:28.
FRIEND - A friend is a friend in the truest sense, not someone who has a lot of acquaintances. "A Real Man" is a friend to his wife, loving her more than himself, giving up himself for her, and putting her first before himself and all others. "A Real Man" puts God first and then his wife second. That is a sacrificial love, putting God and his wife before himself.
The bottom line is that "A Real Man" is a Godly man because an ungodly a man CANNOT do what "A Real Man" is to do, not without God and God's help. Psalms 15:1-5.
"A Real Man" has the same characteristics as in Jesus - humility, mentoring, integrity, provider, friend, honesty. If you want to be "A Real Man" you need to become like Jesus. Romans 8:29.

You guys without Jesus may be able to develop some of these characteristics to a small degree, but you will never be "A Real Man" until you come to know Jesus and His characteristics start taking over your sinful characteristics of societies ideas of what a real man is.

Saturday, August 25, 2012

Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life

Change your mindset and you can change your life into the life you want!!! Negative/evil thoughts ruins your internal self, which ruins your life!!!
It is impossible to love others when you do not truly love your self in a positive/good and right way. Self-hatred and anger damages you more than you realize. The negative/evil self-talk that you do inside your head is the basis of most of your problems and negative/bad things that happen in your life. The negative/evil mindset/thoughts and the anger it produces is the downfall to you having the good life you want.
When you turn your anger inwards it becomes depression. The more anger you feel, the more depressed you become. Depression feeds on negative/evil thoughts along with the self-pity, hurts and disappointments from life. So round and round you go until your life becomes a living hell that you created.
Your mindset is the internal thoughts that your brain plays over and over again. Your mindset is the way you believe, think and feel about yourself, your life and everything you come into contact. Your mindset is internal and creates your true self-image. When you do not get the type love and support you need, even if it is negative/evil, it tears down your self-image even more. And as sick as it sounds, some people seek out and thrive on negative/evil attention, love & support, instead of positive/good. When you do not receive the type love and support you want it can cause you to feel ugly, unworthy, abandoned, unloved, and will eventually turn into anger. If the anger is turned inwards it can cause depression and sickness. If the anger is turned outwards it can cause rebellion, defiance, disrespect for yourself and others, social problems with the law or even worse. Your depression and anger must be fixed correctly before you can make positive changes in yourself and your life.
Your depression (anger turned inward) is not hurting anyone but yourself. You must learn to forgive yourself, forgive others and turn loose of your anger. The longer you hang onto it the longer you will remain sickly and unstable. It is not easy to forgive and turn loose of your anger but the unconditional love of God is the only way you can release the anger and be totally healed. To get your mindset, your heart and your life straight, first you have to ask God to forgive you for all the negative/evil wrongs you have committed against Him, others and yourself. Then and only then will you be released from all the negative/evils you brought onto yourself and into your life.
Before positive changes can take place and work, your mindset/thoughts, your self-image must change from negative/evil thinking to positive/good thinking. If you have negative/low self-confidence and negative/low self-esteem, you cannot have positive changes in yourself or your life. You must realize that God did not make a mistake and did not make junk when He created you. You are not junk/mistake and you are worthy of everything good in yourself and in your life that you want & all that God has to give you.
Building up your self-image and self-confidence will bring positive/good into you and your life. God doesn't want His children to be sickly, poor or lack for anything. Being sickly, poor or lacking is because you  subconsciously choose to sabotage your self, your highest good and your life. By changing your mindset , your thought/belief patterns and how you truly feel about yourself to positive/good can bring immediate positive/good  into your life.
Your mind is constantly telling you either negative/evil statements or positive/good statements convincing you one way or the other how to think, act and feel. Your positive/good mind's statements can convince you that you are happy, cheerful, loving, inspired, motivated and effective. Your negative/evil mind's statements can dis-empower you, causing you pain, misery, suffering, sadness, depression, fear, anxiety, helplessness and hopelessness. Your negative/evil mindset is not allowing you to be the way that you know you need to be or do what you know you need to do. If you do not change your negative/evil mindset, you will never become the positive/good person or have a positive/good life you want and desire.
To change your mindset you must first release all of your negative/evil lifestyle and thought patterns, then replace them with all new positive/good lifestyle and thought patterns. Replacing your negative/evil thought patterns with new positive/good thought patterns becomes easier and more relaxing for you with each passing day. Everyone needs to make a list of all the positive affirmations and changes we want in ourselves and our lives to help keep us on track and from slipping back into the negative/evil that we know we need to stay away from.
Thoughts are energy, either positive/good or negative/evil energy. There is NO in between. When a negative/evil thought enters into our brain/thoughts, we tend to focus on that negative/evil thought, which in turn produces more negative/evil thought, until it becomes out of control & takes over. The thoughts you think, negative/evil or positive/good, begins to display in your life by your actions and appearance. Your negative/evil thoughts will bring negative/evil events, blocking positive/good events, making you a slave to your negative/evil emotions, thoughts, beliefs and behavior. Negative/evil thoughts attracts and brings more and more negative/evil energy.
Positive/good thoughts creates a positive/good energy that attracts more positive/good energy to you and into your life. It is extremely important and vital for you to be in charge of your own mind/thoughts, in control of your own personal power and to think highly of yourself. It is extremely vital to love yourself!!! If Jesus can love you enough to give His life for you, then shouldn't you love yourself as well? God created you and God does NOT make mistakes or junk!!! You are not a mistake, even though you have made mistakes, and   you are not junk!!!
Treat others like you want them to treat you. Know yourself, be true to yourself, love yourself, and take care of yourself, because no one else will do it for you.
Become truly aware of your thoughts... negative/evil or positive/good. You have the conscious choice to choose negative/evil or positive/good thoughts, personal power and energy.You have the conscious choice and power to think what you want and to create the kind of life you want. There are two types of decision makers inside of you, negative/evil and positive/good, which ever one that controls you determines what type of person you are and what happens in your life.
There is the "I", who is your higher self connected to God, your positive/good brain/thought power, the balanced and positive/good adult. Then there is the "Self", the ego, the inner child, who is very selfish, self-centered, self-destructive, and very negative/evil.
"I" (positive/good) should be in control of  the way "Self" (negative/evil) chooses to think, behave, react and manifest/produce it's self. "I" does not choose to live the way "Self" has been living in the past. "I" choose not to be depressed, fearful, sickly, negative/evil anymore. "I" choose to like and love myself, and give myself the right kind of validation I want & need to have a wonderful positive/good life. "I" choose to use my positive/good thoughts to create good health, beauty, love, joy, peace, tranquility, abundance and prosperity in myself and in my life. "I" choose to stop my negative/evil "Self" from creating anger, sadness, frustration, hate, fear, drama, chaos and poverty into my life!!!
You have the control over your self-image, your thoughts and your life, no matter what kind of life you were born into or raised up in!!! All you have to do is change your mindset!!!
When you take responsibility for your own mistakes and life, and stop blaming others, is when you become a mature and responsible adult!!! When you no longer blame others, for the messed up life you were dealt as a child and the messes you created in your life, is when you can start creating the life you desire and want, and start receiving the Blessings God has for your life.God is the Supplier of all our needs, wants and desires, and He can only give to us when we have a positive/good mindset/thoughts, and not blocking Him with our negative/evil mindset/thoughts.
Health, wealth and happiness is within each of us. Blessings brings positive/good results...Curses/evil creates more negativity/evil bad results.
Your thoughts and your spoken words makes you what you are and what your life is!!!
Change your negative/evil mindset/thoughts into positive/good mindset/thoughts and you will  change your life into the wonderful life you want and desire!!!